DON'T KEEP IT TO YOURSELF
Gambling is so "in your face" and everyone loves a winner. No-one wants to admit to losing - habitually - and not being able to stop. So it is important that you do not face this problem alone. Secrecy has backed you into this corner, and fellowship will lead you out of it.
The best source of help is usually your own family and friends. They already know you better than anyone. You may be worried about telling them, but family and friends are often relieved that such problems are out in the open.
HOW ShOULD I TELL OTHERS?
How might you tell someone? Here's the 5 top tips from Dan:
- Pick a good time - pick a deliberate time away from other distractions, which will allow the other person time to get used to what you're telling them and ask plenty of questions
- Do it face-to-face - don't hide behind text messages or do it on the phone, at the least do it on a video call if the person is far away. They need to see your facial expressions.
- Practice - know exactly what you want to say and how you want to say it. Try saying it in front of a mirror or recording yourself on your phone.
- Don't bottle out - delaying it will make it worse
- Start with a good phrase - "You may have noticed that..."
You may now be thinking "well that's all very well, but I have screwed up a number of times; this is not the first time. I'm really scared of telling them again".
We can't say enough that the power of the addiction is in its secrecy. Being open and honest about it is probably the most important thing you can do.
Watch Dan talk below if it is not the first time you've had to tell someone about your gambling problem: